Are you looking for a path toward more fulfillment personally and in your relationships? Engaging in a rich and meaningful life requires knowing ourselves deeply and acting on intentional choices guided by our core values, feelings, and desires. Our relationships can become more intimate as we develop both clarity about our needs and courage to be vulnerable with those we trust to meet us on this level. I would feel honored to assist you in connecting more deeply with yourself and embracing the dillemas and joys of engaging in a passionate life.
We each have our challenges and our strengths in this lifetime, and we all deserve happiness and love. As a healer I value the power of connecting to our intuition and developing a deeper trust in ourselves. As we increase awareness of our needs through embodying our emotional and physical experiences, we can learn to soften the power of critical, anxious, and rigid thoughts. In moving toward more fully accepting ourselves, we become more comfortable with letting others truly know us. This is a pathway to deeply intimate relationships.
We may have threads of false messages to untangle as we search for our own truths about sexuality due to the negative and conflicting messages we all internalize from our cultures and families. For those of us in relationships with same-sex partners or otherwise not fitting into the heteronormative expectations of mainstream society, part of our process may be to let go of the messages about who we are supposed to be and allow ourselves to create relationships that bring us joy.
If the structure of our lives revolves around staying busy, whether by being productive or seeking distractions, sexual intimacy often slips below everything else that receives our attention. Our sexual experiences with partners may highlight the challenges that come with being goal-oriented, fearful of "failure," and avoidant of what seems unclear or potentially awkward. Moving from judgment into curiosity brings an expansive way of living rather than being constricted by fear. This freedom to experience life as it is will naturally bring new perspectives to the daily routines and excitement to long-term relationships.
Building emotional intimacy involves healthy communication, repairs from hurts, and trusting yourself and your partner to create safety to be vulnerable with each other. Self-acceptance and self-compassion are at the core of this process, as vulnerability is necessary to deepen intimacy in a relationship.
I value the relationship I have with each client and believe the trust between us is an important aspect in creating a safe environment for growth. My intent is to help my clients feel comfortable to explore any issue they feel is important, no matter how difficult the topic may be to mention. I believe a counselor’s office is a space that is set aside for non-judgment and support, which we all need in our lives. I enjoy working with my clients to help them find ways to increase their understanding of themselves and others, to process their feelings, and to identify and practice new approaches to existing problems.
I am a licensed psychologist in New Hampshire (license 1265) and North Carolina (license 4778), as well as a Certified Sex Therapist through the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT). I earned my Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from The University of Memphis in Tennessee. I am a member of the New Hampshire Psychological Association and the American Psychological Association, divisions for Psychologists in Private Practice, Society of Counseling Psychology, and Society for the Psychological Study of Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender Issues. I am also a member of the World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH).
I enjoy working with adult clients on a range of issues including anxiety, sexual and relationship satisfaction, sexual identity, gender identity, body image, and self-worth. I appreciate and value our individual differences. My clients vary in many ways, including identifying as lesbian, bisexual, fluid, gay, heterosexual, transgender, and genderqueer. My clients may be single, divorced, widowed, or partnered in same-sex or other-sex relationships, as well as in monogamous or non-monogamous relationships. All of my clients are adults and typically range in age from their late 20s to mid 60s.